What are the 7 new love languages?

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Most of us grew up with the idea that there are five love languages. Words of affirmation. Quality time. Physical touch. Acts of service. Receiving gifts. That framework has shaped how we talk about relationships for decades.

But recently, that thinking got a serious update.

Truity, a company known for personality assessments, surveyed more than 500,000 people and found something surprising. Love may not be expressed in five ways after all. Their data points to seven distinct love styles: activity, appreciation, emotional, financial, intellectual, physical, and practical.

That is a big shift from the model many of us learned from Gary Chapman, who introduced the original five love languages back in 1992. His work has had a massive influence on modern relationships, dating culture, and even how couples argue and reconcile.

The 7 New Love Languages:

Activity: Sharing experiences, hobbies, and adventures together.

Appreciation: Expressing gratitude and recognizing the efforts of a partner.

Emotional: Sharing deep conversations, feeling safe, and providing empathy.

Financial: Showing care through financial support or sharing resources.

Intellectual: Connecting through mental stimulation, deep discussions, and sharing ideas.

Physical: Connecting through touch, such as holding hands, hugging, or intimacy.

Practical: Performing acts of service to make a partner’s life easier, such as chores or tasks.